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ItalianoESP - Profile Content and Messaging Guidelines Checklist
I am sharing this checklist I have made as part of the ESP Program -See here for an outline - Emotional Support Penis (ESP) Practitioner Program . While this post was written for fun, the program will use this as the basis. The full checklist will be part of the training program and will contain more details, with examples, etc. I am sharing this shortened for feedback and input. So please feel free to make suggestions and improvements. Anything that is missing etc. Still a weork in progress. Note for the comments section - Keep comments to the specific topic. No debating, you can take that elsewhere. I have added further context on the problem and issue at the bottom, if you are inclined to read them. ESP Interaction Framework Rules, Behaviors, Comfort (RBC) 1. Rules (Non-Negotiable): - The Fundamentals - The basic that must be followed - for safety, consent, and legality. - Breaking these = immediate removal. 2. Behaviours (Encouraged): - How you show up - How you interact—engage socially, read the room, no lurking, no pressure. It’s not just about avoiding mistakes, but contributing positively. Do you want to be someone, that people interact with again 3. Comfort (Awareness): - How you make others feel - How you show up - This crucial layer involves emotional and social intelligence – understanding the and awareness of your impact—your presence should feel safe and respectful. Even if you follow the rules, people must feel good around you. ☑️ Rules (Non-Negotiable) ☐ Follow all platform rules. Know and adhere to the specific Terms of Service and content guidelines for each site (DarkSide, Hemlig, BodyContact, etc.). ☐ Label explicit content appropriately. Follow platform requirements for marking explicit photos or text, allowing users to choose what they see. ☐ Read profiles and respect all stated boundaries. Check profiles before contacting. Respect any specified limits or preferences. ☐ Never send unsolicited explicit content. Only send such content if the person has explicitly said they want it. ☐ Use only your own original content. Represent yourself accurately. Memes are fine, but don’t use someone else's dick pic! 🎭 Behaviors (How You Show Up) ☐ Show genuine effort and thought. Complete your profile thoughtfully. Avoid generic, lazy, or mass messages. ☐ Be authentic and present yourself genuinely. Let your real personality, values, and interests show. Avoid clichés. ☐ Be honest and clear about your intentions. Don't pretend neutrality or say 'no expectations' if that's not true. ☐ If you’re hoping for sex—say so, clearly and respectfully. ☐ Personalize your communication (PPA). Reference specific interests from their profile. Avoid impersonal messages. ☐ Focus on offering and contributing. Don’t only think about what you want—think about what you bring. ☐ Communicate with confidence, not scarcity. Avoid begging, neediness, or fear-based behavior. ☐ Don’t take it personally. If someone doesn’t respond, move on without sulking. ☐ Complete your profile. Minimal effort results in being ignored. Provide enough info for someone to get a sense of who you are. 💚 Comfort (How You Make Others Feel) ☐ Do you come across as someone who is safe to meet? Think about tone, language, and attitude. ☐ Do you show that you understand boundaries? Consent can change. Make that okay. ☐ Do you accept rejection gracefully? Don’t sulk or guilt-trip. Move on. ☐ Am I self-aware and presenting authentically? Be grounded, confident, and real—not creepy or fake. ☐ Own your vibe. Whether dom, rope bunny, brat, or romantic—be honest and proud of it. ☐ Understand that being upfront is a strength. Clarity is better than manipulation or vagueness. CONTEXT This is based on my experience. I'm not saying that this is the only way, or even that it's correct. This is what worked for me. I get guys messaging me, saying that it's difficult to get verifications or meet people. At the start, I put a lot of effort into my profile and tried to write as thoughtful a message as possible. The only real difficulty is effort. If you don't want to put that in, then expect to be ignored. Effort is the only thing you are 100% in control of. You cannot blame anyone else if you don't try. The Problem Women are drowning in messages on DarkSide" (and similar platforms), and most men seem to put in minimal effort. This often manifests as: - Lazy entitlement. - Incomplete or blank profiles. - Generic, copy-paste messages ('Hey,' 'How are you?'). - Not reading the recipient's profile or respecting their stated boundaries. - Vague intentions or dishonest approaches. - Bitterness when you don't get replies. The Opportunity Because so many interactions lack basic effort, even small, thoughtful actions make a significant difference. - Even basic effort stands out. - Just putting in a bit of effort and thought already sets you apart. - Simple acts like reading a profile thoroughly, writing a clear and personalised message (Personal Profile Alignment - PPA), and having a complete profile can immediately distinguish you. Info - DS Statistics on gender Identity - Male: 67.64%, Female: 22.00%, Couple (mixed): 3.83%, No answer: 2.50%, Female (trans woman): 0.64% Effort as the 'Cheat Code - Showing effort builds trust. - Laziness and entitlement are red flags. - Putting in the effort demonstrates respect and genuine interest, increasing the likelihood of a positive connection. |
ESP Training Checklist for profiles and messages. How to not act like a dick.
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